GLEANINGS from Claudia: Grief

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.” Proverbs 14:12

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”  Proverbs 16:25

Since I first learned to read I’ve read voraciously. Reading allows me the opportunity to step into someone else’s story and experience their adventures and misadventures. As I enter into this other life through the portal of a book I find myself asking ‘how would I respond in this circumstance?’ In November 2010 the book group I belong to read “Choosing to See” by Mary Beth Chapman.  The book tells the story of the accidental death of their little five year old girl and recounts the impact on the family focusing primarily on Mary Beth.  Mary Beth’s story did cause me to think into that kind of loss, but I have to say that it didn’t come close to preparing me for the experience of losing Becky.

Since Becky’s death my appetite for reading has waned a bit. Reading demands focus and focus has deserted me. There is one exception to that loss of ability to read – I’ve read  many books on grief over the course of the months since Becky died.  Books on grieving are varied in their approach to the topic. Some authors are simply recounting the story of
their loss and the impact on their lives and emotions. Some authors are offering helps and encouragement about how to make it through such an experience. There are authors with advanced academic degrees and authors with only life experience. There are authors who approach grief and loss from within a framework of faith and those who do not.  So many books on grief . . . so much grief.

As I’ve read I’ve gleaned truth from every book.  Not everything I’ve read rings true, but everything I’ve read has included something that resonated of truth.  Nearly every grief  book grants expansive permission to grieve in whatever way grief comes to a person. On some level I agree with this concept, but I also wonder if, as in all of life, there is a way to grieve that dishonors God and threatens our ability to live and thrive?  The proverb quoted at the beginning of this Gleaning encapsulates the concern behind my question.  I was impressed to see that this Proverb is repeated word for word within such a short span of scripture.  This concept is important. I want to grieve in a way that leads to life. I want to live in a way that leads to life – both for me and others.  Lord – I look to You to lead me in the right path in every moment and every aspect of my life. Even as I walk through the valley of the shadow of death lead me to life. Keep me from those comforts that ease my heart, but that can capture me in a snare I can’t readily escape. Be my comfort and peace and life.

Where there is shadow there is light - look to the light!

Where there is shadow there is light – look to the light!

“You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence,  with eternal pleasures at your right hand.”  Psalms 16:11


About Gleanings from Claudia

I am a wife, mother, grandmother,sister, and friend newly introduced to grief as I lost my 32 year old daughter in an auto accident in December 2010. I am a follower of Jesus and am journeying through grief while abiding in Christ.
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1 Response to GLEANINGS from Claudia: Grief

  1. Trudy Fuller says:

    In thinking of grief and there is a way that seems right to man gave me a picture of a seed under the earth waiting to grow. We can let our seed of grief that was planted sit there and hide (it would almost seem right to man to do this) or it can grow into something beautiful and big..I see us healing in that growth and others being touched by our experience and the great compassion that unfolds in us. It’s not the seed we would choose but has been allowed into the garden of our heart. There are those rough hard times of grief that feels unbearable but they do become less and less. All of us who have experienced that crushing grief KNOW the feel of it and it’s hard to believe it could ever go away. You have allowed your grief to already touch more people than you know and it has been a blessing to get to understand your heart. You honor Becky in your sweet open walk with Jesus. love, Trudy

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